It’s You vs. You – Read This If You Feel Stuck

Hi there!

Today’s post builds on the conversation we started previously. For context, here’s the link to the previous blog post. Or you can dive right into this one. Your choice 🤷🏾‍♀️🫶🏾

Haven’t you ever clung to something, maybe a routine, a person, or a song, that no longer fits? You keep holding on, even though it doesn’t serve you the way it once did.

I get it. I’ve been there too. I remember holding onto this one friendship that was clearly over. We had grown different, different interests, different values, different lives. Our conversations felt like work, but I stayed because it was comfortable. I liked being able to say “we’ve been friends for x years”. I know I know, that’s stupid🤦🏾‍♀️.

Letting go felt like grief. It wasn’t just about losing her, it felt like losing a part of myself, the version of me that had always been a part of that friendship. But when I finally did let go, it made room for connections that felt lighter, easier, and more aligned with who I was becoming.

And that’s the thing! It’s okay to outgrow what once felt like everything to you. It’s okay. It’s just that it’s hard.

Why’s it so hard though?

Maybe because familiarity feels safe. It’s warm, and cozy, and predictable, even if it’s not helping you anymore. It’s easier to stick with what you know than try something new.

For the longest time, I kept taking all my notes by hand. Even though I had apps on my phone that could sync my notes across devices, I stuck to pen and paper because it was familiar, even though it slowed me down. When I finally made the switch, it felt like a revelation. Now, having my notes accessible all the time is one of the best gifts of technology for me. It just makes sense. I know you may find this funny because it’s not even new tech, just know that it’s new for me 🌚.

Growth is uncomfortable that way. That’s why we resist it. It forces us out of our comfort zone.

Think about music. Will you keep listening to one really good song forever? Doesn’t it get stale?

When I finally started allowing myself to explore new things, I discovered parts of me I didn’t even know existed. Take walking. Who knew I’d enjoy my solo strolls? Not me! I only started for health reasons. And podcasts? I used to judge people who listened to them, but thank God that I have now seen the light💡😂. It’s really grown to be one of my favorite things to do.

So don’t be your own mountain.

When we think of obstacles,we think of a tall mountain in our way, locked doors. But what if you are your tall mountain? What if your mindset is your own road block? What if it’s actually You VS You?

Fear of failure, fear of the unknown, or fear of losing the identity we’ve clung to for so long can keep us small. But letting go of the old things is how you make room for new passions, experiences, and people.

Ask yourself, “What else might I enjoy? What else is out there for me to explore?”

As you grow, so does your world. Your perspectives shift, your relationships, even your aspirations and self-image transform.

Let yourself grow. You’ve got this.💗

(PS: About the friendship I talked about, no we didn’t fight, we just gradually drifted and I allowed it)

Do you relate to what I’ve just shared or do you disagree? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments 🫶🏾💬

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