Plot Twist: I Don’t Like That Anymore

Is it just me, or has your taste changed as you’ve grown older?

I was recently going through my yearly replay playlists when I realized how many songs and artists I used to love but haven’t listened to in years. It got me thinking not just about music, but about books, hobbies and even friendships that had quietly faded into the background. And the funny thing? The things that excites me now are things that wouldn’t have held my attention a few years ago.

For instance, I used to be a really huge Swiftie. I knew every lyric, played her albums on repeat, acted like I was starring in her music videos (don’t judge). Her songs felt like they were written just for me. But lately? I don’t really vibe with them like I used to. It’s not that the music changed, it’s that I did. Same thing with books, food, even my taste in men 👀. Slowly, without even realizing it, I grew out of old preferences and into new ones.

And that’s… okay. Right? I think it is.

It makes sense that as we go through life, our experiences shape who we are. The books we read, the people we meet, the conversations we have, they all influence who we’re becoming.

What’s not okay, though, is how we let these changes happen to us without questioning them. We just go with the flow, letting life shape us without really paying attention to how.

I remember one time when I was constantly consuming negative news. Every day, it was something tragic, and eventually, it started affecting me. I felt drained, anxious, and like the world was just… bad. It felt like the world’s problems were too big and I was too small. Slowly, my naturally hopeful outlook was replaced with pessimism. And I didn’t even realize it was happening. I was changing, again.

One night, after yet another depressing headline, I couldn’t sleep. That’s when I figured out that if I didn’t do something about this, I’d keep spiraling.

So, I took a step back. I cut down my screen time, cleared out my timeline, and started following creators who shared content that lifted me, productivity, self-improvement, creativity. Less world news, less updates generally. I only chose the things that made me want to grow. Little by little, I started to feel better. Better than before, because I found myself pursuing new interests with a renewed sense of purpose.

The point is: You are always changing. Yes, emphasis on “always”. But it’s up to you to decide how you change.

If you’re not intentional about your life and your growth, you might wake up one day and realize you don’t like who or what you’ve become.

Pay attention to the content you consume, the people you’re around, the things that influence your thoughts because change will happen no matter what. But when you’re intentional, it doesn’t just happen to you, it happens for you.

With love,

Tega 💗

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